The time has come to move to a new city. Whether you just wanted to experience moving someplace you always wanted to live or you learned that your career is taking you to new places, moving to a different area is both exciting and nerve-racking.
Moving to a new city is a stressful process. Initially, you are consumed with finding a place to live, learning your way around and getting settled. Once the dust settles, it’s normal to want a few people to spend your downtime with. As an adult, making friends in a new town can be intimidating.
Roommates
There can be several benefits to having a roommate, especially in a new city. Not only will you have someone familiar with the area that can give you some pointers on local amenities but you’ll also be splitting your housing costs in half.
Before you look into how to find a roommate in a new city, make sure to set some ground rules. Have a list of things you can and can’t live with. Maybe you’re allergic to cats or can’t stand the smell of cigarettes, be clear about what type of roommate you seek. Be specific about the costs of rent and utilities.
When looking for someone to share your home with, include some personal information about yourself. Mention what types of hobbies you enjoy and the type of schedule you keep. Finding someone with similar likes will make talking and getting a feel for who they are easier. Making sure you work similar hours will keep you from sleepless nights and future frustrations.
Making Friends
With the internet, the world is a much smaller place than it was 50 years ago. Use social media to your advantage. Ask acquaintances or friends if they have any friends in the city you moved to. If they do, get contact information and follow up with meeting them for a drink or coffee.
You can also take to one of the many apps available for meeting people. Do a Google search for the types of apps available for what you’re looking for. Make sure you’re using one that’s location-based, so you can meet up with link-minded people in your area.
Get to know your new coworkers. Don’t be afraid to be social and make small talk and see who you meet that shares some of your interests. You already have one thing in common, not only that, these are the people you’ll see more regularly because you work together. If your company has social events, make sure you go so you can interact with your coworkers in a social setting.
Be Neighborly
Sometimes people in your new neighborhood will turn up at your home and introduce themselves and welcome you to the neighborhood. Don’t be worried about your house being a mess because you’re up to your eyeballs unpacking boxes. Everyone knows you just moved in, they’ll expect that!
Although some people will go out of their way to meet you, others won’t. Don’t be afraid to knock and introduce yourself. Let your neighbors know who you are. If you’re so inclined, you could also throw a small party and invite your neighbors. It can be the beginning of new friendships. If nothing else, it will let them know you’re friendly and outgoing.
If you are walking your dog or doing work outside in your yard, be sure to wave to passing neighbors or offer a friendly hello. This lets your neighbors know you’re approachable and easy to talk to. Happily engage in small talk and avoid controversial topics.
Moving to a new city can be scary and intimidating if you let it. Be yourself and make the first move if needed. You’ll soon notice making friends won’t be nearly the challenge you thought it might be.
