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Driving Solo

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I think about it often. Mr. S just turned 61 and I turn 60 in a few months. As we age the loss of a partner seems to pop-up every now and then, and while I don’t like thinking about it, the realist in me says that one day it will happen. While I know that there’s no way to prepare for life alone, it’s still good to have some guidelines.

I’m posting this more for myself, so that I have something to come back to and read one day. It’s inevitable, for everyone – even people in an ideal relationship with a lifelong partner – there will be times when you are alone.

For this post we spoke with Susan Alpert whom for 46 years,  lived the dream with her husband, Larry; they had a happy home, children and thriving careers. When Larry died, Susan experienced the ultimate aloneness, fearing her happiness would never return.

“No, it wasn’t easy to recover from the loss of a loving partner at my side, but I did, and learned how to be very happy on my own. It’s possible at any stage of life,” says Alpert, author of “Driving Solo.”

“I’ve spoken to those who have been divorced or separated from their spouse or they just haven’t met that special someone yet and they, too, feel a sustained loss –similar to a death. But, as I’ve learned, going solo can be an unexpected and fulfilling experience.”

Alpert reviews important markers along her journey to finding happiness again:

Taking Control

Whether you’re widowed or emerging from a breakup, you have to reevaluate and assess where you are and take steps to move forward. If you were married and you’ve been off your game for a while – you’ve neglected a stack of mail, been out of touch with friends, etc. – start making progress one task at a time. If you’ve been left with papers and bills to handle, create a system, perhaps a digitized one to restore order. If your girlfriend or boyfriend left you, it’s time to recognize and respect your self worth. Consider getting into good physical shape with an improved diet and a schedule for training. You might even consider a professional reboot – anything that gets you focused on something constructive can help you move on. Remember, you’re responsible for yourself. It’s you who has to take action.

Ease the Throttle

While it’s essential to take proactive measures, it’s not wise to try to do it all at once. In some areas you should throttle back. Aim for achieving a regular sleep schedule – stress often impacts one’s ability to sleep well, and current research is finding the heightened negative side effects of insufficient sleep. Also, take a break while awake, you’ll think more clearly, have more energy and be prepared for the next steps, whatever they may be. – Take a deep breath, get outdoors. Even a short walk is an excellent stress-reliever while providing moderate exercise. We all know that it’s important to eat balanced meals, but you’re human and that’s not always possible. You may be tempted to indulge in junk food, alcohol and other drugs while in emotional pain, but this ultimately makes life harder. Hint: try to include different colored items on your plate, that’s an easy way to eat well.

If you’re grieving, know that eventually, you’ll feel better

The initial stages of her grieving were new and terrible. “People said the feeling wouldn’t last forever. My response? – ‘That isn’t doing me any good right now, is it?’ They hadn’t lost Larry, I did,” she says. Immediately, Alpert knew things would never be “normal” again – life would be different. It was going to be a long and painful process. She had to go through the experience of loss. Until then, she could expect to yo-yo between emotions, her therapist said, “In time, I got my health and strength back – I found a reason to get out of bed each morning and although unexpected and different, I have a wonderful, exciting and joyful life today,” she says.

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About Zipporah Sandler

Zipporah Sandler AKA Zippy is a lifestyle and travel specialist who after living everywhere from Providence to Paris found herself suddenly residing in South Florida (something she swore she’d never do).

Whether it be San Pellegrino water or Louis Roderer Cristal, Zippy suggests that you keep your life sparkling and your glass full.

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