Your wedding day is likely to be one of, if not the, most important days of your life. You are probably going to spend a huge amount of time planning everything from which napkins look best on the table to whether you can invite that one cousin, you know the one, who always seems to make a scene, not to mention picking the perfect dress to make you look amazing on the big day. It’s a lot. And it can be made even harder, and much more stressful, when you are planning to please others, and not just doing what you and your intended want.
Well, you know what? It doesn’t have to be that way. You can plan the wedding of your dreams (and I mean your actual dreams and not some Pinterest version of what you think you should be doing). Here’s how:
Start with What Actually Matters to You
Before you start arguing about chair covers or whether “beige” and “sand” are the same color (spoiler: they are), take a breath and think about what you really want from your day. Big party or intimate dinner? Outdoor vows or courthouse cool? Buffet tacos or black tie?
There are no wrong answers. Except maybe a cash bar. Don’t do that.
Ditch the Copy-Paste Vows
Your love story isn’t generic, so your vows shouldn’t be either. Whether you’re writing your own or choosing something traditional with a twist, make sure it reflects how you speak. No one wants to hear you recite something that sounds like it came from a Victorian poetry slam if that’s not your vibe.
And if you’re not into public declarations of undying devotion, don’t force it. Say something heartfelt, keep it simple, and maybe throw in an inside joke or two if that’s more your speed.
Sprinkle in the Details That Scream “Us”
This is where things get interesting. Want to walk down the aisle to a song from your favorite video game? Do it. Have a thing for craft beer, board games, or vintage bicycles? Work them into the decor. One couple I knew had a ring bearer in a dinosaur costume. Another served cereal instead of cake. The possibilities are endless and often hilarious.
Even traditional elements can be made personal. For instance, if you’re doing printed invites, skip the stock flourishes and go for something unique, like wedding invitations with a family crest. It’s classy, meaningful, and far more interesting than a glittery monogram no one will remember.
Let Your People Be Themselves
Bridesmaids don’t need to match. Groomsmen don’t all need to wear three-piece suits and pretend they’re enjoying it. Give your crew room to show up as themselves and you’ll all be less stressed and more comfortable. And probably better looking in the photos, too.
Bottom Line: You’re Not Hosting the Royal Wedding
Unless you actually are, in which case, congratulations, and please invite me. So, you don’t have to do what you think you should do to keep up appearances or present a certain image. That means you are totally free to throw off the shackles of Pinterest’s perfect moments or Instaworthy decorations and do exactly what it is you want to do. Stay true to yourself and have the wedding you truly deserve.
