Lisa Pankau, author of the book Beyond Seduction, Loving Without Limits
She’s been married twice. Her second husband Ed Pankau. was a well known investigator and author of the New York Times best-seller, Hide Your Assets and Disappear! He had never been in a monogamous marriage and she was his fourth wife at his age of 51. They had a good marriage (not without their own issues though) but he died unexpectedly. The loss of her marriage without her being ready for it to end was a huge factor for the reason why she wrote this book
Intellectual Intimacy is the process of having conversations with your partner.
1. Have a meaningful conversation about something that emotes and moves your partner’s soul then ask your partner to share one of your topics of passion
2. Together, discuss your most inspirational moments and share those with the reasons why they were so moving
3. Share your life aspirations and make a plan to help each other attain those goals and dreams (no matter how unrealistic it may seem because what the mind believes, it can achieve)
4. Have a meal together (with no television or other distractions) and take the time to hear what is going on in your partner’s life and then share the same with him/her.
5. Have a conversation about something you do not necessarily agree on and then agree to disagree. This should increase awareness and understanding for the reasoning behind those belief systems that you both hold.
Social Intimacy is the process of sharing and enjoying what happens when you are together in public places.
1. Have a date night one night per week
2. Go for a walk on the beach, watch a sunset or experience some quiet time together
3. Participate in some activity outside of your normal routine to build “together” experiences and memories
4. Do something you would not normally do that your partner enjoys and ask the same of him/her
5. Remember that just because you are married or that you are involved in a long term relationship, courtship never ends! Treat every day as if you were in the beginning stages of your relationship and enjoy the newness that every day brings.
Spiritual Intimacy is the mutual development of understanding and respect for each others’ religious beliefs. Spirituality is significant to individual and mutual personal growth and can be a very strong bond between people.
1. Discuss together how you feel about religion or spirituality
2. Together, define your core beliefs and desires from a spiritual perspective
3. Share your insights and inspirations for your personal, spiritual growth
4. Experience a different religious or spiritual perspective together and discuss what you liked or did not like
5. Devote one day per week to indulge your senses in nature together.
Emotional Intimacy takes place when you can share something that makes you feel insecure or vulnerable and your partner responds in love with respect and kindness. It is the trust and confidence that will cause your relationship will grow to deeper levels of love.
1. Share with your partner an event or action that causes you to feel bad, scared, or insecure and have them do the same with you
2. Share your most exciting and happiest thoughts and events that occur throughout your day and ask the same of your partner
3. Share your true emotions with your partner and be “real” with them about who you truly are and where you are coming from. Ask your partner to do the same with you.
4. Be mindful to share your feelings and thoughts with your partner. S/he is interested in what makes you unique and you!
5. Exchange your deepest secrets together and listen to the other with an open and loving heart and no judgments.
Physical Intimacy is the process of touching each other in both a non-sexual and a sexual way. The rewards for those risks are that you strengthen the love bonds and create a passionate and very profound love that you can share for a lifetime.
1. Give 20 non-sexual touches per day
2. Have spontaneous sex at least once a month
3. Ask your partner to tell you something new that they would like to try – you answer the same question and then do it!
4. Light aromatherapy candles around the house (sensual and romantic scents) and invite your spouse to share a candlelight bubble bath with a glass of wine and quiet conversation in the tub
5. Call, text, or send flowers and tell your partner how much you love them and that you are thinking of him/her.
Relationships are wonderful and beautiful. They last when we take the time to cultivate them.
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