If you’re reading this, then the chances are that you’ve had a particular question in your mind for a while now, but you’re wondering how to ask it. Most of all, you, like many others, might be a little nervous about what answer you’re going to get. There’s no way to make anything a 100% success, but here are a few ways to tilt things further in your favor.
How much of a surprise should it be?
This is a question without an easy answer. A lot of couples nowadays have big talks about their future long before the question is popped. If you want to keep things a surprise, that can make it doubly romantic, but you should at least look for the signs that your partner is as into the prospect of getting married as you are. You can always ask some friends and family members of theirs on the down-low, too.
Where you ask it matters
You don’t want to ask the question while you’re waiting at the bus stop. Think about romantic locations you can use to your advantage. Can you find your first date spot or another area that has special importance to you? Or could you find an excuse to take your loved one on a city break then find the opportunity to pop the question there?
Don’t underestimate the importance of the ring
Yes, diamonds are pricey and, yes, rings are just a symbol of your love. But they’re an important symbol, perhaps the most important gesture you will make in your life. You want to make sure that you invest in them enough to show that you’re truly serious, and getting a custom engagement ring can make it all the more special. They will be wearing this piece of jewelry for the rest of their life, after all.
Be smart with your timing
There’s no bad time to hear good news, you might think. However, asking someone to make a big decision when they’re already dealing with major life changes, such as a new job or sickness in the family, can be really poor timing. Valentine’s Day, Christmas, an anniversary, their birthday, there are a lot of great times to pop the question. Just make you’re not doing it during someone else’s wedding, this is a major faux pas that is for some reason becoming a trend.
Pour your heart out
You need to say something beyond “will you marry me.” In a way, you should think about this as stating your case. You don’t have to make a huge case, but choosing the right words can get your loved one all buttered up and emotional to the point that they’ll probably say yes before you even finish the question. So long as you and your partner are on the same page about your future, the only way to really get a “no” is to make a big mess of the proposal. The tips above can make sure that doesn’t happen.