Why am I telling you to embrace one of the seven deadly sins? That can’t be good!!!
Have you ever thought
- Wow, she goes on a LOT of trips – why her?
- Look at all the money she has – why not me?
- I want those shoes/jewelry/house/etc.
I think we all have, and in the world of blogging it’s even more rampant than lusting after that cute boy/man/girl/woman next door. Doesn’t jealousy cause anxiety, insecurity, and even depression if you REALLY let it get to you? I suppose it can, and like you I’m not stranger to being jealous. BUT, I embrace my jealousy and USE it to figure out what I want and how I’m going to get it.
1. Use it
Use your jealousy as a jumping off point. Think about whether it’s something that you REALLY want and if so, put it on your bucket list, make it a goal. It’s much easier to think clearer when you’ve written it down and thought about if and why you want to achieve, own, explore, the possibility of it being something you truly want.
Let’s take the example of a site that has millions upon millions of readers. You have hundreds and WISH you could be them. Why not contact the owner and ask if they’ll mentor you? If that’s not likely, go back and study them…look for clues and patterns of what they’ve done each step of the way. Learn more about them, how they work, what they’ve done over the years to become successful.
What if it’s even simpler…like a travel opportunity that you wish you had been invited on? Again, learn more about the destination or trip, follow them on social media, begin a conversation and make a connection. Go above and beyond. If you’re a blogger, like me…don’t wait until you’re invited on a trip. Research and write in ADVANCE (don’t forget to send them the link). Developing a relationship means that you’ll have a better chance of being asked in the future.
3. Be thankful
Take your moment of “I wish I could” and look at all of the things that you’ve already accomplished. Remember that there’s a good possibility that someone is looking at YOU thinking “I wish I could…” Enjoy what you already have and note what you’ve achieved.
Map out what it is that you want and create your own opportunities to achieve your goal. I find that writing (old school) helps me. I may put the goal at the top of the sheet, then write down each step I need to take to achieve my outcome. Remember that it’s not always an easy straight line from where you are to where you want to be. Enjoy the journey.
Once you’ve reached your goal, help someone else reach theirs. Pay it forward, don’t be afraid to share how you got where you are today.
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